My sex life has been on a roller-coaster ride, sometimes having numerous girlfriends at a time or in a specific period. But sometimes the presence of a partner is not there in my life. Before marriage, I have been in numerous relationships. Some are only feeling, others are dual attachments, though I have been in serious relationships but not for a long time. As in my case, I get unusually detached after a certain period.
Relationships:
One of my relationships with a girl from my locality only makes me experience the adventurous side of sex. She introduced me with the unusual term BDSM. First, I was unaware of this method of sex, but she prescribed me to watch “fifty shades of grey” to get a grasp of that. The other day was scheduled for real practice. As an enthusiastic lad, I have done almost all research about this as I was also quite attracted to the unusual way of lovemaking after watching that movie.
So by watching the movie, I found it sizzling and new to my experience. I was quite interested and hesitated simultaneously. As I was not fully aware of the processes or the activities. Moreover, only thought of sex leads to bulk preparation and getting in a zone where you become self-conscious. So I have done my research and found out perks of BDSM. Also got a hold to different procedures and essentials pieces of equipment associated with the play.
Moreover, I have purchased some of the stuff, but getting to buy those products are one heck of a thing. I have to be very attentive as I chose to buy things from a distant market. The shopkeepers are also very much suspicious about the purchase.
D-Day:
We have decided to indulge in this activity is finally at its verge. She called me and wanted to reach her home as soon as possible.
My girlfriend was a bit kinky and older than me, now I think she must have loved this method of lovemaking as most of the equipment such as ropes, armbinder, breast binder, chains, and cock ring is already available at her place.
When we indulged in the foreplay I sensed something of preparation done before. She had already done the arrangement to make it interesting. Though, from a movie, I got to know about the basic processes and plays. I found her also a novice in this method. Maybe she has done that before or tried this for the first time.
After the foreplay, we got indulged in each other, as per her discretion I tied her with ropes and attached the breast binder. The feeling was new as this is the first time I have been introduced with this kind of sex. She was also taking an immense interest in the play. She directed me to playfully caress her booty and in between told to give gentle pats. It seems that she was enjoying it fully. After the foreplay she directly wanted me to penetrate her. I was being a total novice followed her directions like a child. The caressing and sense of fulfilling generated confidence in me.
Afterward, we have been in missionary positions also and done some extraordinary stuff, which was quite new for me. After penetrating her she was on the command mode. She directed me to be in the lie-down position, attached chains to my legs and fitted the silver cock ring to my penis, the coldness I had felt is way different. Then she opted for role-playing, she seemingly adapted the role of hunter. Following came to the blowjobs with cock ring attached. Her saliva made it kinkier, I was on the top of my orgasm, which shows the interest of mine.
Getting into foreplay was the most sizzling and kinky part of that sex schedule. I have been with her for a whole night and found something more which were more than interesting. That night I found that there are different ways of making love. To keep a restriction on monotonous activities during regular sex is mandatory.
Above was the story of my debut in that method which was quite excellent. After that, we had tried BDSM for numerous times. Even she bought new objects with every successive sex course. We were some sort of experimenting those.
But with the end of that relationship, which was of 6 months tenure, I bid adieu to BDSM.
Overview of my married life:
Now, after that relationship, I had some flings ,but those of such a short period. Thereafter I got married. My wife is a sensible and beautiful lady who knows all about leading a happy life. Although she is a working professional, but gives equal importance to the family also. One of the excellent traits of her, she gives equal importance to sex life also. Being on the higher side of sex- drive, she knows I need newness in sex. We are very frank about these things. We regularly discuss among ourselves about how to give an interesting touch to our sexual life.
As in all other marriages, our sexual life is being affected by some of the general causes. Somehow I know these cause not meant a lot, but for the time being it is affecting our sex life.
Now, after 3.5 years of my marriage, some things are not going well. Especially the sex life I had with my wife is getting a downward slope. She is more a kind of monotonous mind-set. She doesn’t want to experiment with things. With the anonymous thought of that relationship in which BDSM played a very important role at that time make my sex life colourful and interesting. It has given me an idea to try out the whole method of wild sex and BDSM techniques with my wife.
Before making it official with my wife to perform this, I have started a ritual of watching porn with her. For some initial days, I have been anonymously selected the porn category. But eventually, I had selected BDSM as the porn category the other day. I was prepared and frank about that, but my wife is quite new to this. She somehow finds it interesting as well as wild enough. She has a mix set response after watching some of the clips.
Moreover, I made her watch both of the parts of “fifty shades of grey”. She finds this quite revealing and unusual thing to make love. She is somehow right in her thinking. I am not pressurizing her to give it a thought, but regularly hunting that thinking, by some means. Even we have started browsing the effects of the BDSM on live life together in our spare time. Her interest is quite visible but I am not going to rush into it.
As this method can be of great interest if and only if both the partners are giving it an equal thought.
She seems to be not that convinced by this method. I was preparing for including this method in our sex life as it provides these following advantages. And I am denoting this through my experience.
Advantages felt by me-:
- Reducing anxiety level:
At that time, when I was with my past girlfriend and tried this method, anxiety was a big issue. The sexual enjoyment of giving and receiving pain between both the partners helps to reduce ambiguous behaviour and anxiety between them. After 3.5 years of marriage, I find this anxiety lying in a deep corner of ourselves. I am readily in a way conveying these benefits to my wife so that she will be ready to make love including this method.
- Psychological stress gets decreased:
As we both are working professionals, the psychological stress, which we get from our jobs is massive. I have a thought to cope up with that, we have to try this as the attributed nature of BDSM is to experience physical intimacy with intensity. It also enables to let go of the anxiety, expectation and judgment factor in sexual life. We both are considering this as a major fall for our sexual interest, as we are very much indulged with our stress.
Above are some of the advantages I have discussed with my wife about the BDSM.
She seems a bit convinced, but not totally. I am doing my best to convince her, as I am in a great need to experience this method of lovemaking, although as per my thinking it will provide new dawn on my married life as it is going on a steep slope. Moreover, the need for reducing the monotonous ritual of sex is mandatory as there is nothing new in the prevalent process. She seems to be somehow convinced, but the wild behaviour and the pain is getting her to get behold.
Wish me good luck as the convincing will take some more time.
